25 thoughts on “The Adventure of Grief: Dr Geoff Warburton at TEDxBrighton”

  1. Way to go Geoff. Love that courage, love that message. My daughter died 3
    years ago (she was 23) and after 18 months of holding it back, I opened
    myself up to a whole new way of living, certain of her blessing. I’ve taken
    (and left) her ashes wherever I travel, started a blog and a Facebook Page,
    Joyful Mourning, to begin the conversation about how grief CAN change us in
    good ways. People want to talk about this stuff!

  2. Hi Penny, thanks for your comment. I am so deeply sorry for the loss of
    your son. You have my attention piqued…I would LOVE to hear about the
    travels with your son’s ashes, and about how grief has changed you in good
    ways. There’s a few ways to tell of your experience on my blog. Hope you
    find one that resonates. I look forward to hearing from you. Becky P.S. I
    tried to include the website address but it’s not allowed from this site so
    sent you a reply via YouTube with the link shown.

  3. I think I knew everything Geoff said, but it is so easy to get sucked into
    the vortex of feeling sorry for yourself. I lost my spouse after a two and
    a half year battle to cancer, at the age of 29, with a 21 month in tow.
    During Christmas number 2, and with the 2 year anniversary of his death
    approaching I find it so easy to use his death as an excuse to check out
    and just survive. However, I have a child to raise, and I refuse to model
    for her that only surviving is good enough. Geoff is completely right, I
    have been to hell and back, but actually feeling the emotions, and walking
    through the fire of grief, can bring you to a place of enlightenment, peace
    and gratefulness, if even for only a few moments at a time, that are
    absolutely mind blowing. My husband fought hard for his life, and now I
    fight for mine. I honour my husband by living well, living happy, and
    living fully.

  4. Excellent. And he certainly practices what he preaches. It must take a lot
    of courage to go up on stage and be vulnerable like that.
    It seems to be hardest to face for heterosexual men, or is that just my
    perception, I wonder why? Fear of showing vulnerability, weakness,
    perhaps?

  5. Great great talk! thank you
    I found this for an assignment but it has helped me to shape my own
    personal grief journey after the death of the love of my life. I feel a
    flicker of a flame of life I want to fan and grow. Thanks

  6. You have no idea what this means to a girl who heard about her father’s
    death yesterday. I’ve literally surrounded myself with books and the
    internet to listen to others. It’s turns out it does wonders to hear from
    much more experienced people. Thank you!!!!

  7. Very well said and done! My grief started young and showed in many forms
    throughout my life. It was a pleasure to hear these things said. I love the
    term an “adventure”, along with the visualization at the end of the video
    because I personalized mine!

  8. I lost my son to suicide on August 21, 2010. It was the horrendous and I
    didn’t know how I could go on. Slowly, as I began to come to terms with it
    I realized he didn’t want to hurt anyone else, he wanted to end the
    relentless pain of profound depression. I came to understand that if I give
    up on my own life it feels selfish of me. I owe it to myself and to Terry
    to live a wholehearted life. And to make sure he didn’t die in vain. So I
    am a suicide awareness advocate, my life has purpose and joy. I will
    always miss my beautiful boy, Terry, and I will honour him by living well.

  9. i have had my share of grief and i know there is more to come;” once you
    embrace death then only can you start living!”. i appreciate the truth
    about how you feel when dealing with loss of a loved one. i would like to
    know your views on a situation when there are alot of unanswered questions
    about a death i.e – unknown causes or prehaps a murder that was not solved?
    thank you.

  10. Thankyou so much for this. I have had many losses, most recently my
    husband, the love of my life. I am/have been actively grieving, facing the
    tsunami when they wash over me, immersing myself in the pain – but also
    feeling joy in my family and friends, my home, the weather etc, and now I
    am looking to the future, taking my husband with me in my her part,
    determined to live well for us both. You have affirmed for me that I am
    grieving ‘well’ and healthily. You are an inspiration. Xxx

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